{"id":1730,"date":"2014-11-12T23:24:33","date_gmt":"2014-11-13T06:24:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sunrisertc.com\/?p=1730"},"modified":"2024-03-05T17:54:07","modified_gmt":"2024-03-05T23:54:07","slug":"change-aint-easy-possible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sunrisertc.com\/change-aint-easy-possible\/","title":{"rendered":"Change Ain\u2019t Easy, But It Is Possible"},"content":{"rendered":"

Many topics have been covered, and covered really well, so today I\u2019m going to share some of my musings in a manner that I hope will be useful for those who might peruse this post.
\nWhy is it so difficult for us to change?\u00a0 Most if not all of us are very cognizant of the need to change, that seems to be the easy part.\u00a0 We also usually know what to do that will effect change as well, especially if we\u2019ve sought any outside help from family, friends, and\/or mental health professionals.\u00a0 We daydream and long for what our life could be like if we could just change, then why the heck don\u2019t we?
\nThis is a question that many parents agonize over in relation to their daughter in treatment;<\/a> they\u2019re receiving treatment, all their basic needs appear to be met, so why aren\u2019t they changing like we\u2019d hoped, or they\u2019re making progress but why not more quickly, etc.?\u00a0 \u00a0On the other side of the generation gap, the students labor over the same question themselves in many instances;\u00a0 \u201cwhy can\u2019t I just seem to do it?\u201d\u00a0 One of the most important concepts gleaned as a pupil are the conditions requisite for change that were originally developed by the father of client centered humanistic psychotherapy, Carl Rogers, which are:
\n-Client feels a state of incongruence, which could also be called dissonance, such that it enters consciousness and highlights a need for change.\u00a0 This may not often appear as a student approaching their parents or therapists conveying their need to change, more likely it will be manifested in an array of self-destructive behaviors.\u00a0 The association with one\u2019s behaviors and their direct negative outcomes<\/a> is the genesis for the need to change.\u00a0 It\u2019s normal for a person to experience ambivalence in relation to his condition, and even throughout each stage of successful treatment; it\u2019s ok, don\u2019t panic when as a level 5 your daughter appears conflicted over changes made!
\n-The client feels they are being heard, understood, and empathized with.\u00a0 The therapist will be their genuine self with the client while they jointly engage in psychological contact, also called therapy.\u00a0 The client feels that they are accepted<\/a> by the therapist with what Roger\u2019s termed \u201cunconditional positive regard.\u201d
\nThat\u2019s it?\u00a0 Yep.\u00a0 Wait, you were expecting something more?\u00a0\u00a0 Ok, there is something <\/em>else that even Rogers himself appropriately acknowledged:\u00a0 A few aspects were omitted because they were not absolutely necessary conditions for change, however they are incredibly effective enhancers of the same. \u00a0\u00a0I\u2019ll aggregate the various theorems and principles into a simple one-word description.\u00a0 What.\u00a0 The \u201cwhat\u201d as in what do I need to do now that I\u2019m interested in changing, and it\u2019s at this point that we can explore the numerous therapies and interventions at our discretion to utilize in helping one work through their challenges.
\nTo contrast this with Rollo May and Victor Frankl\u2019s Logotherapy, which literally stands for \u201cmeaning making therapy,\u201d the \u201cwhy\u201d has been sufficiently addressed by the conditions of change, and the \u201chow or what\u201d become primary after first being secondary concerns.\u00a0 In essence, the required conditions for change fulfill the need to attach a purpose to change by allowing our growing valuation of self to become the \u201cwhy.\u201d\u00a0 After this is accomplished, it will be accomplished a multitude of times in the course of change.\u00a0 We then look with guarded optimism to what<\/em> we need to do in order to fulfill our \u201cwhy.\u201d
\nFor many, their outlook has been severely altered by a powerful feeling of helplessness, which is a manifestation of very weak self-efficacy, or belief that one can successfully change despite having a desire to do so.\u00a0 Knowing what to do, and that it can actually work, greatly enhance motivation and the conditions for change to successfully occur.\u00a0 The process of developing motivation for change and changing itself occur concurrently with interventions that provide a clear idea of the \u201cwhat\u201d to do in healthy change.\u00a0\u00a0 Right from the start we, parents, clinicians, and staff, can simultaneously form relationships while engaging in challenging therapeutic interventions that will bring about the most effective therapy possible; Success itself! \u00a0Success is the greatest motivating factor as evidenced by recent research from the field of Positive Psychology; we are motivated at the chance to be happy by avoiding sadness.\u00a0 This applies to both parents and students, who are desperate to get some success under their belt to ward off debilitating and painful hopelessness.\u00a0 \u00a0In conclusion, I\u2019ll reference an oft spoken platitude from the athletic domain, which is that a \u201cgood offense (think successes and conditions needed for change) is the best defense!\u201d
\n– written by Allen Richards, CSW, Therapist<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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