What It's Like To Have an Attachment Disorder Imagine yourself working on a 1000 piece [...]
Adoption is a beautiful and redemptive event, but itâ€™s one that does involve loss. For the child, the loss is not remembered but itâ€™s also not forgotten; it can operate as an invisible force and, therefore, has to be brought to consciousness so that it can be dealt with. Often there is loss on both sidesâ€”the parents inability to have children and the childâ€™s loss of her biological family. For the teen, we work to help her realize that she is continuing to behave as if she is going to be abandoned at any moment. We try to help her understand the very real (but until then mysterious) source of her fears, and then to distinguish between real and imagined threats of abandonment.
Attachment disorder can be profoundly painful for parents because it impacts their ability to have reciprocal closeness and connection with their child.